Sexuality is a fluid?

                Sexuality Is Fluid?

yesterday, I read a line that sexuality is fluid. So, my question to all my readers, is sexuality really a fluid? Can we really choose who we love and who we are attracted to? Is it manually possible to choose your preferences and not prioritised sexes? Being straight or gay or queer can ever be the choice ? I thought about exploring the dynamics of this sentence.

The concept of defining gender in the west is quite different with the Asians. We choose to follow a path or in simpler words, we choose to come under one category. In other words, watch Ram Leela, drool over Ram or Leela or both but there is no written law that Ram or Leela will always come in the combined package deal. Beyonce once famously said every girl is bisexual. She labelled every her as her or him. Beyonce's statement has never been more wrong. If I interpret this statement in my terms what she meant was if you are having sex with your boyfriend or husband or your partner who happens to be him, you must be thinking about some other boobs or vaginas. Its humorous that Russians still believe they can tell their people who they can sleep with or love. The kind of a turn on you may get from guys if you are gay can never be the same turn on from girls. you can not modify your options in mid way. Suppressing your desires would only get them more ignitable. You can not change your choices out of the blue. Being one of the queer members can never be your choice. Its something more natural instead of an adept. Once you let your genitals decide for you, there is no going back. But sexuality can be as complicated as it can get. Being asexual is a whole new chapter of this book. When everyone is talking about pleasures of desires in a closed room, you suddenly desire of going out of that room. Holding hands and kisses were fine but things beyond that make you nauseous. No one can force you to love what others think of sex. Not being comfortable in your own body can never be your choice, if you are not comfortable then you are not and that's the plight of some other people. Even the I in LQBTQIA+ can not have choices. The condition doesn't lets you modify your choices. No one could ever modify their tastes relating to gender in bed. Either the seduction is there or it is not. You can not bring it by magic wand.

Using gender as a derogatory remark is as immature as it sounds. Gender or sexuality is nothing just a symbol of representation of who you sleep with. And it should be treated as such. You can not choose who you want to seduce or sleep or even if you want or not. Sexuality is not fluid. Sexuality is an oil that fuels your other choices.